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What is the difference between dismissime anf fearfull avoidant?

7:22 Compassion and love fit somewhat with the other two. The Queen is associated with Law (have you seen a statue of Lady Justice?).

So she doesn’t like my therapist - wants me to loose wait, join and gym and have new friends - might be a sign?

A child that is not embraced by the village, will burn it down: to feel its warmth... When a broken/damaged/immature/abusive man is using a woman, he’ll show these signs: - he avoids truly deep and emotionally vulnerable conversations - he's inconsistent - he only contacts you when he needs/wants something - he doesn't REALLY include you in his life (it's all an illusion/fantasy) - he avoids commitments/labels - he makes you feel guilty/crazy/needy - he doesn't truly support you or your goals (in any real and tangible way) You have INCREDIBLE INHERENT value just simply by the virtue of being a woman! Stop chasing a man. Just stop. It's beneath you and it goes against nature. So, If he pulls away, give him a push... Let him go! When he pulls away, he can stay away, it is over! COMPLETE! 1) Never EVER be afraid of losing him. You are the Divine feminine. Let him fear losing YOU! 2) Have an EXTREMELY low tolerance for ANY bad behavior... AVOIDANT or NARCISSIST? Let's be real. It's irrelevant. They both behave the same. The damage they do is the same. The trauma they cause is the same. FUCK THEM BOTH. So, When there’s a disagreement, an argument, a conflict, some bullying, disrespect, boundaries being crossed etc... someone will inevitably, most likely, be disappointed in me... So, I engage in each and every situation in a way that ensures, that the person disappointed in me, NEVER ENDS UP BEING ME! I aim to never repress, never suppress. I aim to never lose parts of myself. Radical honesty only: 100% of the time. Always, all ways. AND REMEMBER: to test if ANY relationship is healthy - you've got to judge the relationship on its bad days, not on its good ones! ALSO, If you haven't heard today... You are so very loved and you are so very worthy of love. The hardest part is learning to love your self and to know: it's not all your fault, and to see: that you're beautiful; wonderfully perfectly brilliantly divinely created. You're stronger than most; a true leader/warrior in the making. Keep going and keep thanking. Remember Jesus was an outcast and he suffered more than any human being could ever endure... And the most important message here is to forgive them and to forgive yourself and to love all. Keep walking in truth. AFFIRMATIVE PRAYER: * I completely totally entirely permanently forgive, release, let go, move on, and surrender to Jesus * I accept myself, 100% * I am a creative being, I create miracles * I fully harness all my power and magnificence and beauty * I am a master alchemist * My life always, and in all ways: unfolds perfectly, in accordance with divine guidance * I am restored to my true nature: which is LOVE * I constantly/consistently feel/accept: the love and bliss and joy and blessings that flow into my life Yes I AM blessed everything goes my way! Learn to fall in love with yourself, with your life, with being alone. Gain a relationship with your Maker, improve yourself, your mental health, your well being, and... THE MOST HIGH WILL SEND YOU YOUR ORDAINED SPOUSE...

Guys this is the kind of men woman want to marry. Masculine, calm, wise, clean. You can follow Andrew Tate or others, but this is a better example. May God bless him and his wife.

I chronically complain to myself I need to STOP

43:16 Mastin you NAILED.. Adopted 3 months in an orphanage. Adopted. And other traumas hit. How can I work with you. Tired of being Anxious Avoidant. And not allowing anyone to get truly close to me

May God guide men and women. We need better role models. May God keep you helping. I think this is very balanced and accurate. Extra: you could read how the Prophet Muhamad behave. He was very masculine and still very sweet to their family and friends. (I am not talking about all muslim men)

He is actually projecting his anger toward his ex into this video.

This was such a great conversation!

There is no problem with high sexdrive, the problem is woman low sex drive.

As a woman!!! this is one of the most informative podcasts I've ever watched. Some things I didn't even realize were toxic and others I 100000% agree with. Thank you to you both.

Don't get married are have kids ...Never let anyone know yr income

Step 1 and 2 has been somewhat easy. Step 3 has turned out to be harder than I anticipated

Marring the wrong women is a big one,

Is it possible to switch attachment styles? He’s the clingy one now and I’m out. I like him still but I don’t want anything to do with him anymore

I have a small penis 😢 i refuse to embarras my self. I accepted my fate 😊 alone forever MY BLOODLINE ENDS WITH ME

This Perfectly describes my mom xD

I call the repetition compulsion “being comfortably uncomfortable”. We know how to navigate the situations that traumatized us…so we relive it over and over because we have learned HOW to.

Starting a side hustle is like chasing pussy over purpose, mate- stop preaching against your own religion.

I've watched a lot of these videos by him because I'm in a streak of free time at the moment. In one video, he talks about having a pock face as a teen and that was followed by him putting down fat people. I think in that moment he showed his true self. He can be a hypocrite.

I got about as much need for chronic complainer as I do more taxes

When she rejected you act as if nothing happened Or just celebrate get in your head you are born healthy and you do not have celebral paulsy

Thanks!

I'm 55 and have seen it's less a matter of the man not being able to say what he wants, it's more a matter of he learns it's pointless to say it or to ask for what he wants because the answer is going to be no.

Interesting topic. Let's look at it from a different perspective for a moment. If we think about it, some people might simply not like emotions and that's because they simply can not understand their own emotions or feelings. There are plenty of people who can not understand their own emotions so they will not understand others, that's understandable. It's like a whole new language. It's not a man or woman or whatever gender you are issue. Some people get annoyed and irritated at others for simply expressing happiness. Eg. I have been in a relationships with people who all experience mental illnesses such as Autism, Bipolar and BPD. All 3 of them hated emotions with a passion. All beautiful human beings mind you. But they ran off logic. Most people are emotional-logic. So it's not about gender or masculinity, it's simply that they never were allowed to be themselves when they were children. That's why they can be very controlling. What you're referring to is a lack of mentalisation. Those women (or men) who see emotions as weakness might have difficulties regulating their emotions. I dont want to be married to a robot, I need someone who is not ashamed to be themselves - an emotional being. ❤

I admit to being a nice guy and given the bad boys I've seen, I'm not going to change that even if it means I'm alone. I lost my first wife to a bad boy and I'd like to challenge your premise that even the assholes have to be nice to a degree because women wouldn't go for a man who treated her badly right from the start. I learned a lot about this guy and he was the kind of guy who could walk into a bar and was guaranteed to sleep with one of those women that night. A few highlights about this guy. He was abusive in all forms including physically. He was an alcoholic and addict. He couldn't have a normal job because he had so many child support orders from so many women that his entire paycheck would be seized. He never even had his own place, always living with other people, usually girlfriends, in order to not have an actual address he could be tracked to. For two different friends who tried to stay friends with both of us, both told me they had spent time with them as a couple and he would hit on them, they'd tell my ex and my ex got mad at the friend. He'd be staying with a woman, as in girlfriend/sleeping with her, and then bring over another woman and tell the woman whose place it was that she could either join in or get out for the evening. You know the joke how men, when asked how many kids they have, they'll answer with a number and add "that I know of". This was a man who slept with so many women and had so many one night stands, he probably died not knowing how many kids he left behind. And each time he did get a woman pregnant, he took off. He would hit on and sleep with other women. He even suggested having a threesome with my exes two younger sisters. When they'd met, it was less than a year after we got married and my wife was still 21 and he was 42. My ex stayed loyal to him, getting pregnant for the first time when she was about 40, he did what he did every time he got a woman pregnant, he took off. She got word when the child was about a year old that he had a heart attack and died. Guess who got a call about a year later. Anyway, if she left me, college education, good career, at best a social drinker, never arrested, etc... all the good guy traits, I did have to wonder how horrible I must have been. But I realize it wasn't me. If it takes a man who is truly abusive in order to get a woman to be loyal, I'm not going to do that. And don't say that it was just my wife. I would hear from friends and her family for years as they learned how bad this guy really was and how, aside from my ex, he got SOOOOooooo many women. I have to wonder how many wives got pregnant and they convinced their husbands that it was his and not the bad boy she had an affair with.

I don't know what they care about. I am not sleeping before marriage and the only guys who text me, are the ones who were in a least few relationships. I cannot accept this unless changed behaviour.

You’re so well spoken! I can’t believe this was done in one take

Them women are gold diggers

Usually you annoy me. I actually got something from this one.

I really wish I would’ve come across this channel way earlier in my life

People who get laid when they want don’t have these issues

Excellent! I could so identify. Thank you

Cause they don't give a f*ck about them even if you paid them to try to. T_T

Struggling with my health because i gave everything but she broke me emotionally. I lived under me for years but i went through one problem and she threw me out

This video is everything

I have checked-out of this nonsense. VVomen are too much trouble and expense.

Very low level video

I love the process of Regulate, Relate and Reason. Most of the time we try to reason with a dysregulated person, which never works. Customer service representatives seem to be trained to practice Relate and Reason when dealing with dysregulated angry customers. Why not teach these essential skills in school? Society as a whole would benefit. The way Mastin describes Relating and Active Listening is essential to connecting with each other. Understanding and validating the other person's point of view, even if we don't agree with it, makes them feel seen, heard, and understood. It's within psychological safety that we feel safe to be our authentic selves without fear of negative consequences. Being aware of what's happening in our nervous system while taking responsibility for our reactions without blaming the other person, and sharing the impact of our behavior on us without the other person taking it personally, is a skill that takes practice, and the more we do it, the easier it gets.

Thank you gents. Really appreciate the breakdown and explanation of the nervous system. Almost seems like a foreign language at times. 🙏🏼

Thanks! This vid resonates for me. I am going to add your vids to Heidi Priebe's vids.

So much of living these days seems to demand one taking a multidimensional whipping upon the divineness of the human soul or psyche. I’m not religious but come on… Sometimes it seems like everyone would sell their souls if given the right opportunity. Social media, like TikTok influence and warp the realm of relating to the world by tribally encircling us with informational silos and echo chambers. A race to the bottom of the brainstem where we have become the product. The over-abundance of empty noise from living in a materialistic world leaving not much left to the imagination in relation to what is sacred. ‘Pick and choose’ consumer based relationships that modify expectations into transactional feats that the other will inevitably fail to live up to. That’s okay because these dating apps hold a seductive Thanos-like grip on desire in a pulsating dynamic of loss and gain, promise and frustration. What does it mean anymore to be seen and encountered as a flawed human being? Where is the cohesive “we” that allowed us to survive up until this point? Has everything been reduced to mere quanta? Apologize for the ranting. It’s been a very difficult month. Greatly appreciated the messages within this video and the sensitive comments.

I’m the anxious one and he’s that avoidant. Just under 3 years of him ghosting me and coming back. Usually by the 3 week point he’s back to texting me. He always says we are just fwb’s and that he doesn’t want a girlfriend. He hasn’t been returning my texts in 2 1/2 months. Very little texts the past couple weeks. My heart hurts so much. I miss him so much. This video helped me understand why we do what we do. Thank you for this!

Thanks man I'm saving this video

How to increase your value in the dating market as a man? How to become top 1% of men? I'm struggling to find a partner and I want to change things, bad.

Awesome brother Thank you I’m learning so much

Some women care a bit less, other a bit more. But ALL care about money and resources. Peroid. The older, higher educated she is, the more she will care. Single moms will vastly care more. The more she is around high status men (e.g. nurses) care the most.

Stellar Conversation 😊 Thank You Connor + Mastin. 🙏🏼

Great advice man! Simple and to the point very down to earth no nonsense stuff Much appreciated thank you again